Confrontation
Relationships are built on
that fragile word called trust. We all have so called, "demons" that haunt us to where a wall
of suspicion is raised when interacting with most. Humans with their flaws are far from perfect, but do we need to stop
developing towards a grand race of beings we are meant to be. Our first step is to look at our
interactions with each other and instead of the perception, the learned traits
from life here on Earth, consider the words and actions of another from the positive side
based upon our learned wisdom.
Lets look at a common martial discussion for insight. “I want to
spent some time with my family, they miss me.” Counter, “I thought we are your family,
why are you going to leave us when we need your time?” Are you that insecure
in your relationship that a restriction must be put in place when this person is
just going to express their love to family that they have a connection, is this
not
selfish? This is not an excuse for escape, for if it was, it will take a lot
more than mere words to mend a relationship. It will take compromise, sacrifice
and a willingness to be vulnerable. Do you hide a spouse under the perpetual needs of the home to keep
another from interaction due to the secret faults you fear may be exposed and
the chance temptation may show greener pastures? Your spouse knows your faults and it
won’t take an outside job to confirm them. Relationships have many faults and a
significant proportion are misunderstandings, wasted stress, unneeded venting of anger,
unnecessary erosion of the gift of love. When an unexpected action catches you
by surprise or just the expected response due to past patterns, choose the side the brings about love instead of the wall. Half the time you
will be right the other half of the time your actions will bring your mate
closer for they misjudged your patience.
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